Strategies for High Conflict Cases Column – Safety Director and Violence Expert

Susan Murphy-Milano is often praised as one of the most dynamic and engaging speakers of our day in the domestic violence prevention field.

As an expert in the area of intimate partner violence and the prevention of homicide, Susan has created specific tools and procedures which the abused need to safely leave a violent relationship.

To read the past column from Susan, click HERE

Her books, “Defending Our Lives,” “Moving Out, Moving On: When a Relationship Goes Wrong–A Step-By-Step Approach For Organizing Your Leave Ahead of Time” and “Time’s Up! A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive & Stalking Relationships,” are considered the “bibles” of how to make the move away from abuse and deal with the many confusing situations surrounding violence prevention, stalking, break-up or divorce.

Susan witnessed her father, a decorated Chicago Violent Crimes Detective, brutally and violently attack her mother repeatedly. The threat “If you leave, I will kill you” turned into reality one awful night. Susan walked into her childhood home and found her mother murdered and her father dead in the next room. He had killed her mother, then committed suicide by shooting himself in the head. That day, Susan vowed to change the way the world looks at violence, both inside and outside the home. In the years since, she has delivered on that vow.

Her books and strategies are taught world-wide and used by law enforcement, domestic abuse advocates, social workers, attorneys, health care workers, human resource departments and domestic violence agencies. The comprehensive strategies and escape plans utilized by Susan have been successful and tested by time for over 20 years.

Susan uses humor, passion, and all her years of experience to motivate her audience to become more effective first responders, advocates and professionals in their work to stop family violence.

Susan’s quest for justice was instrumental in the passage of the Illinois Stalking Law and the Lauternberg Act. She has been prominently featured in newspapers, magazines, radio and television including: The Oprah Winfrey Show, Larry King Radio, ABC’S 20/20, Justice Files, E! True Hollywood Story, CNN, Sunday Today Show Profile, Woman’s Day, Family Circle, U.S. News and World Report to name only a few. She has frequently participated in guest media commentary panels on major news programs. She is a contributor to the online blogs Women and Crime Ink and the crime survivors blog Time’s Up.

Susan Murphy-Milano is with The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Psychopathy Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. Susan is the author of “Time’s Up: A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships,” available for purchase at The Institute and

Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, “Time’s Up” on Here Women Talk:
and the syndicated The Roth Show with Dr. Laurie Roth:

The Institute’s Susan Murphy Milano now writing for ‘Crime, She Writes’ blog in!

To read the latest column from Susan, click HERE