Your Path To Recovery

The aftermath of pathological love relationships is like none other. The devastation and the unique symptoms that people experience are not widely understood by women’s organizations and mental health professionals.

The Institute, the leading experts in both research and treatment for the aftermath of pathological love relationships, offers our highly effective and uniquely specialized approach toward your recovery through our ‘Path to Recovery’ program.

All of our services will provide you with a comprehensive understanding of personality disorders and the specific relational dynamics that have impacted you.  Whether you choose tele-counseling phone sessions or a retreat, you will receive information about personality disorders. Our services are described in detail here, on the website. Each description of services has specific instructions on what to do next. If something isn’t listed here, it isn’t available at this time.

Due to the nature of the pathology that we deal with, we do not do business via telephone based on the historical problems we’ve experienced in the past. We do not have a public phone number nor staff who respond via telephone. The only phone calls that we do are conducted via scheduled appointments following the application process for a specific type of service and for clients who have been approved for services. All these upfront steps are done via email and online platforms.

Once you have an idea of which of our services you feel best fits your schedule and budget, you will need to take the next steps in the application process for the type of services you are interested in. As part of our recent redesign for process improvements, most of our beginning processes are now available online. Before you email us, check to see if what you want has instructions with a link to complete an application, enroll, etc. If you email us for something that is available online, you will be directed back to the relevant web page. If you email about a service, you will need to tell us which of our services you are interested in. Telling us a bit of “your story” aligns with every other inquiry we get so be specific in what you are asking for.

Applications for healing through The Institute include a self-assessment of your current situation regarding emotional, physical, spiritual, legal, parental, sexual aspects, and the most problematic symptoms you are experiencing, and a personality trait self-evaluation. The Institute’s mental health professionals will review your self-assessment and evaluation to determine if our tele-counseling and/or retreat approaches are the right mix for your current emotional needs.

Begin Your Path to Recovery

You can begin your Path to Recovery by learning more about the services we offer from the information and links provided below. Please familiarize yourself with the information so you know what’s available to you and can best decide what fits within your budget, your time availability, and your schedule. (All the information we have is provided here – emailing for ‘more information’ will only result in being re-directed back here where all the information we have is presented.)

Current Services

All of our services provide essentially the same information and guidance. The primary difference in the method of delivery of this information and guidance is the time commitment on your part, your financial situation and budget, and your availability. You should pick and choose which services will work best for you with those factors in mind.

An Affordable Recovery Program:  At this time, the Affordable Recovery Program is comprised of the Living Recovery Program which was developed for those who have suffered serious financial impact and need efficient and affordable pathology education and trauma survivor support.  For those who cannot afford the time and costs for traveling to a retreat, or for whom weekly tele-counseling phone sessions is not currently an option for budgetary reasons, our Living Recovery Program offers trauma-specific and cost effective intervention through our on-line course. Learn more about it…

We will be adding online seminars to the Affordable Recovery Program in the future and they will be announced here and in the weekly Newsletter when they become available.


NOTE: Right now our tele-counseling slots are filled and we are not taking new applications at this time. Watch the Newsletter for an announcement or check back here for when we are taking applications again.

Tele-counseling is one-on-one phone sessions with our Director of Clinical Services who is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor. (Sandra does not do tele-counseling sessions or phone consultations.) Tele-counseling includes pathology education, relational dynamics, symptom management, healing techniques and strategies for co-parenting.  Once the application process has been completed and a time slot becomes available, these high demand one hour tele-coaching private sessions can be scheduled at a mutually convenient time. (Tele-counseling sessions are not scheduled on an emergency basis.)

Applications for tele-counseling are submitted using a secure on-line presentation which is closed at this time. Please respect our staff time and DO NOT enroll in the on-line presentation unless you truly are interested in this service and intend to submit the forms. Once your documents have been submitted through the on-line application, or haven’t been submitted within 10 days of enrollment, your enrollment will be canceled. The purpose for membership in the on-line presentation is simply a conduit for application completion and submission. Removal from the presentation has nothing to do with our approval process and should not be misconstrued as a determination of approval or denial for services.

If you wish to apply for tele-counseling, you can do so by completing the on-line application which is currently closed. You will need to create a login and password unless you are already enrolled in the Living Recovery online course or have participated in other presentations we’ve offered through Ruzuku. In that case, you should use your existing login credentials.

Retreats: Retreats are small groups of survivors or one-on-one intensives with Sandra that are held several times throughout the year and are hosted by our staff at our Retreat Center.  The goal of the retreats is to provide information on personality disorders, the relational dynamics, and specific healing techniques.  Most retreats are five days. To learn more about the various retreats, dates, locations and details, visit Retreat Schedule, Descriptions and How to Apply.

Support group counseling/coaching: No tele-support groups are planned or scheduled at this time.


Service Prices

Tele-counseling $75 per hour
Retreats $750 and up
DO NOT remit payment for services until our staff has instructed you to do so.

What You Need To Know

We cannot provide emergency services:

  • We are not an emergency-based program which requires the ability of an organization to see someone face-to-face during crisis. We do not provide what is considered counseling or therapy; therefore, those with an emergency need should seek the services of a mental health professional in their area.
  • While we do our best to respond to emails/inquiries within 48 hours, we do so on a first-come, first-served basis. However, if you are in crisis, are physically unsafe, or emotionally crashing, you should first seek services in your local community prior to approaching The Institute.
  • Our services focus on the aftermath of a pathological relationship and this includes recovery from the symptoms that occur.  If you are still in the relationship, we are unable to assist you because we are limited to working over the phone.  Your safety is our concern and if you are in a dangerous relationship, please seek help from your local domestic violence shelter or clinical professional.
  • We are not a ‘non-profit’. The Institute charges for services and we strive to keep our pathology-related assistance affordable for most people. Keep in mind that our staff is uniquely qualified to deal with pathological love relationships and our program is the only existing program of its kind. You can read staff bios on the website.
  • The exact cost of your recovery will be determined by the kinds of assistance you need.