Tips for Getting Started

Tips for Getting Started

by Carol A. Lee Mooney, M.S., ICCJP

I had the pleasure of attending The Institute’s first therapist training in September 2007. I thought, finally, I met a program and professional who had in-depth knowledge, experience and training on the subject of pathology.

Sandra’s fiery passion for creating public awareness on the topic sparked a burning desire in me to teach about pathology in my own community. Capturing as much knowledge as I could on the topic of pathology was the first step to becoming a healer and a voice in what has become coined as the ‘number one public health issue’ in this country.

My passion was generated because I am a survivor of a pathological relationship myself. So I was eager to learn all I could and while at The Institute’s Retreat Center I read and absorbed all the books, CD’s, DVD’s, E-Courses, books, and workbooks Sandra made available. She also encouraged her students to read the work of other specialists in related areas.

With a certification in the Aftermath of Pathological Relationships from The Institute I shaped my private practice and community presentations around the topic of prevention and healing from pathological relationships. I enhanced my qualifications by becoming a Certified Life Coach through the Professional Woman Network in Louisville, KY. This helped develop a program structure for my clients. (Since that time The Institute now offers their own Certification in Life Coaching through Change Points Coaching so you can get all the training you need through The Institute.)

Sandra’s “How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before you get Involved provided an explosive basis for coaching clients across the United States who were involved with men or women who damaged them physically, emotionally, financially, spiritually or sexually. My clients were either involved in pathological relationships, in the process of leaving, or in the aftermath of the relationship.

It was my job to meet each individual where they were and help lead and guide, educate and support them, while helping to provide local referrals for assistance. To date, I have had many clients across the United States: California, Texas, Florida, Michigan, Georgia, New Mexico, Mexico, North Carolina, Kentucky, New Jersey, Virginia and New York. I’m always amazed that no matter where the client is located, the dynamics of the pathological relationship experience seems to be the same in the area of intensity of attachment and associated psychic injuries.

There are a number of ways you can get involved in Teaching Pathology to Your Community: Public education, small groups or one-on-ones.

Since my training with The Institute, I have been involved in all three avenues. I began giving Pathology Workshops at the community level. For most of my community events, I use The Institute’s PowerPoint presentation specifically designed to educate the general population. This simple to use outreach tool has opened up many opportunities for community discussions.

Facilitating small groups is another avenue to create public awareness in a more personalized way. My most treasured experience is with my weekly group of teenage girls which is always a fun experience. It’s a great feeling to see them be able to identify different pathological relationship types from movies, pop culture, music, and their daily lives.
My one-on-ones are personal coaching sessions with women who help them not only learn to identify pathology in future relationships, but help them with their day to day symptoms of the aftermath.

Working in the field of Pathological Love Relationships has been a fascinating and fulfilling experience and one that many people could be doing in their own communities. You can make a difference right where you’re at! If you are interested in teaching about pathology to your community here are some tips:

1. Get as much training on the topic as possible through The Institute’s products (Books, DVD’s, etc.)

2. Get certified in The Institute’s Coaching or Therapist Programs

3. Set up a weekly Pathological Love Relationship Support Group—The Institute can train you how to run Support Groups.

4. Get connected with large groups or associations so you can network with others and build your coaching program through these affiliations.

5. Get and utilize The Institute’s PowerPoint presentation in your community.

6. Set up speaking engagements with woman’s groups and shelters

7. Become an expert on your own niche of clients, i.e. the legal field, church congregations, PTA groups and/or government agencies.
Know what the impact of pathology is in these areas.

8. Write magazine or newspaper stories that position you as an expert in your field. Start your own website or blog about the issue of pathology. Write for your own local community when pathology is in the news. Make public awareness your first goal!

Every new generation needs to understand the permanence and the damage of Pathological Love Relationships. There is an open market in every community for someone to provide public speaking and awareness, support groups, or coaching. If we can help you become a resource in your community, please let us know how! Email us at saferelationships (at) yahoo (dot) com.

Teaching About Pathology

Teaching About Pathology to Your Community

by Carol A. Lee Mooney, M.S., ICCJP

As a counselor/teacher for the adult probation department and a crisis counselor for the mental health department, I saw serious relationship problems amongst people particularly with addictions to alcohol, drugs, gambling, theft, and other self-destructive behaviors. Often associated with addictions is the added mental health issue related to ‘pathology’ which often dismantles healthy relationships and leaves in its wake, destruction.

But this common thread of relationship problems (which were not merely co-dependent, addictive, or abusive) was also woven throughout professional men and women’s personal relationships. Ooften overlooked is that white collar professionals can be targets of pathologicals just as anyone else can.

There is no immunity by career or education status that saves someone from falling into the most disordered of relationships. In fact, what I learned was those in professional positions are those ‘most likely’ to end up in pathological relationships. Why? The ‘why’ is the focus of this entire magazine.

I, too, like other educated and professional people was touched in my own life by pathological relationships through a marriage, through having children with a pathological, and through another significant relationship. All of these caused much pain, damage, and the need for specialized support through the aftermath.

Survivors of these types of pathological relationships, like myself, are those most impassioned with the message of ‘Public Psychopathy Education’ and those yearning to take the message to their communities! That’s exactly what I have done through my own coaching business ‘Coaching Alternatives to Lethal Men 78.’

My coaching business has enabled me to teach others about pathology in relationships through individual, group, and phone supportive care sessions. I have taken the message to my community through lectures, workshops, and into the schools with groups.

My purpose with The Institute is to help people like you get started in their own outreach to other survivors in their communities. On a professional level–therapists, counselors, probation officers, social workers, addictions professionals, etc. can become certified in this area of Pathological Love Relationships to add to their existing clinical focus in their practices.

On a peer level, individuals can become trained to lead support groups in churches, schools, or other community centers. These groups help individuals who have been devastated emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually and financially from relationships they feel they are intensely attached to and can’t leave no matter what the behavior has been.

The Institute offers training for any one, at any level, so you can become involved in the solution of Pathological Love Relationships. This column ‘Teaching about Pathology to Your Community’ will discuss ways for reaching out to your community with the message of education about pathology. It will help you get involved in The Institute’s Educational Services to get trained for your community.

Education is the key to knowledge, freedom, and the road to healthy lives and relationships in the future! I look forward to bringing you educational ideas each month. See you next month!

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Carol A. Lee Mooney, M.S., ICCJP is CEO and Founder of ‘Coaching Alternatives to Lethal Men 78, LLC’. She is an Internationally Certified Criminal Justice Addictions Professional and holds a Bachelor’s degree in both Psychology and Sociology, a Master’s Degree in Adult Education/Counseling, and is a Qualified Mental Health Professional through Northeast Texas MHMR.

She is certified in various Cognitive Behavioral Programs which include Moral Reconation Therapy, MRT-based programs, Anger Management, and Untangling Relationships. Carol has worked as a Crisis Counselor and been a speaker for the Victims Impact Panel through CSCD.

Currently, she is a certified Life Coach providing individual, phone, and group supportive care regarding Pathological Love Relationships and is a workshop and seminar speaker. Carol is a survivor having personally struggled with issues involving children of pathological men, dealing with pathological co-workers, and personal pathological relationships