Special Notice from The Institute–Colleagues latest survivors book

Special Notice from The Institute–Colleagues latest survivors book

Dear Institute Reader;

Rarely do we send an extra email besides our weekly newsletter but it isn’t often that one of our colleagues writes an extraordinary book that can help millions of domestic violence and pathological love relationship survivors.  It is also unusual that the author is not available to do her own promotion of her latest autobiography of pathological torture.Our colleague Susan Murphy Milano has Stage IV cancer so we are part of a ‘virtual’ online book tour that will help bring her book in front of millions of other survivors.

Susan’s father a decorated Chicago police officer was a child abuser, wife beater and ultimately a murderer. Holding My Hand Through Hell is a personal autobiography, a true crime memoir of a life of service to survivors.  Below is a book review I wrote about the book. I hope you will consider reading this book–not only to understand the woman behind the work but The Institute has consistently encouraged our survivors to find their place in public pathology education and to serve and educate others. Susan’s life is a testament to how a survivor can change an entire field. What Susan did is unusual but it’s not impossible and I am challenging all our readers to follow in her foot steps to shed light on pathology.

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Book Review of ‘Holding My Hand Through Hell’
Author Susan Murphy Milano
Review by Sandra L. Brown, MA
The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Pathology Education

What does an early childhood of alcoholism, sexual abuse, and the witnessing of violence in the home produce?  For decades psychology has been studying the effects on victims of these impactful early beginnings. What psychology discovered was for some victims they would succumb to addiction, repeated patterns of victim/abuser relationships, or crippling mental illness. These early impressionable  years in children’s lives often marred their adult futures with the scars of abuse.

 

And while childhood is the fragile soil from which traumatic imprints can sink deeply into the emotional roots of a victim, what about trauma in adulthood? What happens to adults when unthinkable traumas invade? Or worse—when both a victim’s childhood AND adulthood are contaminated with overwhelming pain? What does the trauma tonics of childhood abuse and the added experiences of a murdered mother and a suicided father do to a victim?

 

From the surface, psychology would ‘predict’ the victim of these combined traumas would likely develop the emotional catatonia produced from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.  Early childhood coping mechanisms that were not fully developed because of trauma, gets a double dose as an adult forcing an adult to call on coping mechanisms that were never produced in childhood.  This is often the kiss of dysfunction for a victim.

 

But for the resilient, these trauma tonics produce pioneers.

 

In the unusual cases of hyper-resiliency, too many traumas often create a metamorphic response turning terror into a piercing intensity of determination. Where the cruel hand of victimization normally would turn an adult into a fetal-positioned ball of anxiety, the resilient phoenix rises out of the ashes riding the horse of advocacy out of the apocalypse.

 

In this victimology- trilogy Susan Murphy Milano morphed from abused child to adult survivor to victim advocate before her super hero cape ever unfurled. What would scorch most adults psyches merely ignited a flame of indomitably in Susan’s mind to somehow prevent further intimate partner homicides.

 

That is a simple analogy for a complex career spanning decades of saving people’s lives in the most unorthodox of ways.  Seeing your parents blood splattered across a house has a way of changing the playing field…and the rules. So there were few rules for Susan in saving people’s lives.  And there weren’t any she wouldn’t consider breaking if it meant keeping one more woman alive. When you aren’t playing by anyone else’ rules the possibilities are endless and thinking outside the box for answers becomes the norm which is why her extraordinary thinking produced extraordinary results and why years from now much of her work will still be considered revolutionary.

 

For every survivor who wondered if she could ever take the pain of violence and put it through the grist mill of experience and help others because of it–you won’t want to miss reading Holding My Hand Through Hell by Susan Murphy Milano who will do more than convince you that God recycles pain–it will show you a magnificent life lived in the service of others, that we may all heal.
Sandra L. Brown, The Institute

You can purchase the book at :
SusanMurphy-Milano.Com
HoldingMyHandThroughHell.Com
IceCubePress.Com

Women Who Love Psychopaths – 2nd. Ed. – Print

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Women Who Love Psychopaths – 2nd Edition

The first book EVER written about the women who have loved psychopathic men! What are your temperament traits that have contributed to being attracted to, and tolerant of, the most dangerous of people?

Sandra has done it again! She has rewritten the Women Who Love Psychopaths Book (an already Award Winning Book) to include some of the newest and most compelling evidence on Neuro-science and what brain differences actually exist in borderlines, narcissists, anti-social, sociopaths, and psychopaths. From brain region mal-formations to brain circuitry and brain chemical differences, these new sections of the book will blow away any theories about this being merely ‘willful behavior’ on his part!

Additionally, lots of new information about recovery and treatment that came right from The Institute’s own Model of Care Approach we designed that is being implemented in psychiatric hospitals. From the last few years of treating survivors, we now have a clear and compelling approach to recovery.

And learn even MORE fascinating aspects of why Sandra believes these relationships are highly connected to trance, hypnotic inductions and your own high suggestibility! Find out what you need to do to protect yourself from entrancem.

Price:  $16.49 plus shipping and handling

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“I am an avid reader and I have never come across any better material than what is on your site…it is all unique and in nearly every single issue, I feel like I am reading about myself.

Never before have I read such outstanding material that describes my situation, so much material I have gone through and none of it addresses the issues that The Institute does, such as the physical ramifications of stress, the PTSD, what to actually DO in the case of PTSD and following, most of all how to live your life after PTSD (helped me SO much, the articles about Living the Gentle life, don’t know what I would have done without those articles!). Also helpful are the characteristics of a psychopathic/narcissistic husband or and the need to leave.

I often forward some of the articles to my friends and my daughters because they are so good and SO accurate as to what I have gone through. I want my daughters to be AWARE of what type men to avoid. Thanks so much for The Institute emails!I cant thank you enough!” ~Annie

Crash Course Box I

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Crash Course Box I

The Institute, the leading expert in Pathlogical Love Relationships has put together a comprehensive approach to these unique and dangerous relationships.

  • The book ‘How to Spot a Dangerous Man’ (Retail $14.95)
  • The workbook ‘How to Spot a Dangerous Man’ (Retail $9.95)
  • The desktop reference book ‘Counseling Victims of Violence’ (Retail $19.95)
  • The e-book ‘Women Who Love Psychopaths’ 2nd Edition (Retail $24.95)
  • The CD Collection of 7.5 HOURS of training by Sandra (Retail $80.00)
  • Understanding & Healing From Pathological Relationships 2.5 HOUR PowerPoint Presentation (use it in group, use it for community lectures and presentations, use it to train other therapists)–Your CHOICE: the regular community version or the Christian community version
  • Our 1 Hour Long Guided Relaxation CD (Retail $40)

We’ll also add a complimentary gift of:

  • The e-book ‘How to Break Up From a Pathological Relationship’ ($9.95)

With the Crash Course Box you are ready to work with survivors:

  • In individual coaching
  • Materials from which to run group
  • Work with survivors about pathological parenting issues
  • Assist survivors in terminating their pathological relationships
  • Utilize a desktop reference book for coaching issues

and more!

The package includes 3 print books, 7 CD’s, a PowerPoint, a guided relaxation CD, and 3 e-books for $150 plus shipping/handling.

Download links are emailed to your PayPal email address after your payment clears – see below for more info.

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Crash Course Box II

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The Crash Course Box II

The Institute, the leading expert in Pathlogical Love Relationships has put together a comprehensive approach to these unique and dangerous relationships.

  • The book ‘How to Spot a Dangerous Man’ (Retail $14.95)
  • The workbook ‘How to Spot a Dangerous Man’ (Retail $9.95)
  • The desk top reference book ‘Counseling Victims of Violence’ (Retail $19.95)
  • The e-book ‘Women Who Love Psychopaths’ 2nd Edition (Retail $24.95)
  • The CD Collection of 7.5 HOURS of training by Sandra (Retail $80.00)
  • Understanding & Healing From Pathological Relationships 2.5 HOUR Power Point Presentation (use it in group, use it for community lectures and presentations, use it to train other therapists)–Your CHOICE: the regular community version or the Christian community version
  • Our 1 Hour Long Guided Relaxation CD (Retail $40)
  • 2 hour DVD 1 ‘Understanding Destructive & Pathological Relationships’ (retail $65.00)
  • 2 hour DVD 2 ‘Healing The Aftermath of Pathological Love Relationships’ (retail $65.00)
  • 2 hour DVD 3 ‘Treating the Pathological Love Relationships: Understanding Pathology and It’s Affect on Relational Health (retail $65.00)

(Many survivors give some of these products to their own counselors who need better understanding of the pathological relationship dynamics.)

We’ll also add a complimentary gift of:

  • The e-book ‘How to Break Up From a Pathological Relationship’ ($9.95)
With the Crash Course Box you are ready to work with survivors:
  • In individual coaching
  • Materials from which to run group
  • Work with survivors about pathological parenting issues
  • Assist survivors in terminating their pathological relationships
  • Utilize a desk top reference book for coaching issues and more!
  • (DVD’s normally sell for $65 each, but in the Crash Course, reduced to $30 each)


AND the addition of the e-book ‘Maintaining Mindfulness in the Midst of Obsession’ and two CD’s that help reduce symptoms of Cognitive Dissonance (normally $39.95 when purchased separately)
The package includes 4 print books, 7 CD Series, a powerpoint, a guided relaxation CD, 3 DVD’s and 3 e-books, and 2 Cd’s on Cognitive Dissonance for $275.00 (plus S&H)

Download links are emailed to your PayPal email address after your payment clears – see below for more info.

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How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved

What IS the Dangerous Man Book?

  • 8 Categories of Dangerous Men
  • Signs and Symptoms
  • Red Flags
  • Checklists
  • Your Own Sabotaging Behaviors
  • Why Women Date More Than One Dangerous Man
  • The Profiles of the Women They Seek

 

 

 

 

 

 

Recommendation by Steve Garufi, LPC from Cairn Counseling

Book Review by WomensSelfEsteem.com

Book Review by Fitnessbookmix.com

Also included are recommend books and clinical references for those that might like more education on the victimization topic.

GirlfriendBooks.com’s Interview with Sandra

GirlfriendBooks.com recently wrote an article about the book and interviewed Sandra.  Here is the lead-in from the article:

Attn: Single Women

Before that date tonight, you might want to head over to the bookstore and read up on who you could be meeting: a Dangerous Man.  Sandra L. Brown, M.A., will tell you all about him in How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved.

Although we are a married bunch here at Girlfriendbooks, we still clearly remember our single days. Luckily, we managed, without this book, to marry non “dangerous” men; although now that we reflect, we are quite certain a few of these “dangerous” men crossed our paths.  (It definitely explains one heartbreak in college.)

To our single girlfriends, do yourself a favor, and read this book.  This is not your average self-help.  Sandra L. Brown, M.A. knows from years of experience what she is talking about.  She could save you from intense therapy, or, possibly, save your life.

Read the rest of the article including the interview with Sandra

Listen to an Audio Excerpt

Click here to listen to Sandra read the book introduction.

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How to Spot a Dangerous Man print book $14.95 + shipping and handling Add to Cart
OR buy the Dangerous Man Gift Pack…
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How to Spot a Dangerous Man Companion Workbook

Companion Workbook:

How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved Workbook: A Survival Guide for Women

The workbook is a companion piece to the main book How to Spot a Dangerous Man and is also designed to be used with the workshops, as well. The workbook is a mini-coaching session in which you will dip deeply into your past from childhood through your teen years, and into your adulthood looking for information about your personalized patterns of selection in relationships. You can’t change what you don’t see!

Products are mailed out on Tuesday and Fridays first class mail.


$13.95 plus shipping/handling

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Counseling Victims Of Violence

Counseling Victims of Violence

Desktop Reference Book For Human Service Workers

This Quick-Glance desk top reference book helps human service workers of all kinds find immediate information on various types of victimization and the corresponding counseling issues.

Victimizations and counseling approaches from cyber-stalking to homicide, from child abuse to terrorism is laid out in an easy to use format.

At a Glance you will be able to see:

  • What are the crisis counseling issues likely to be?
  • What kinds of secondary victimizations are likely?
  • What kinds of social services would be needed in this case?
  • What kinds of resources, books, websites and national organizations can I refer them to?
  • What are the short term counseling issues likely to be if I continue working with them?
  • What are the long term counseling issues likely to be and what resources are available?

Also included are recommend books and clinical references for those that might like more education on the victimization topic.

Price: $19.95  plus shipping/handling.

Book will be signed by the author

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Pathology Pack

Combo pack

How to Spot a Dangerous Man (print) + Women Who Love Psychopaths 2nd Edition (e-book)

Combine two great sellers for powerful insight.

Only $26.00 (plus shipping and handling)

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